Five Key Considerations for a Perfect Elopement
Planning a destination elopement is an exciting adventure with memories that you'll cherish for the rest of your lives. Eloping promises intimacy and unforgettable romantic moments. However, amid the excitement, it's crucial to navigate potential pitfalls to ensure a seamless and stress-free experience. In this guide, we'll explore five common mistakes couples can make when planning a destination elopement and how to steer clear of them. Follow these simple rules, for a perfect wedding experience.
1. Take care of legal responsibilities
One of the first and most crucial steps in planning a destination elopement is understanding and fulfilling the legal requirements of your chosen location. Each destination has its own set of rules and regulations regarding marriage licenses, permits, and waiting periods. Skipping these legal aspects can lead to unexpected complications on your special day.
If you are planning a San Francisco elopement, visit https://www.sf.gov/get-marriage-license to schedule your marriage license appointment. You can obtain your license in any California county clerk's office, and it's good for 90 days in the state of California. If you're planning a San Francisco City Hall wedding, you can even make the appointment to get your license earlier on the same day.
Make sure that your identification is current. Your driver's license or passport can't be expired, or you won't be able to get your marriage license.
How to Avoid Elopement Day Drama:
Research Early: Begin your planning process by researching the legal requirements of your chosen destination well in advance.
Consult Local Authorities: Reach out to local County Clerks and see what they require for their particular office. All offices have slightly different rules.
If you'll be getting a permit to hold your elopement wedding in state parks or beaches, make sure you make a reservation to get your permit and pay all fees ahead of your wedding day.
Plan a Trip: If possible, plan a pre-elopement trip to the destination to finalize legalities and ensure a smooth process on the wedding day. Visiting your elopement location so you can get a feel for the space, is also a great idea. You may find you like it more or less than you did in the online pictures. If it's not what you'd thought, you'll still have time to find a new space that you'll love.
2. Listening to Others' Opinions
While it's natural to seek advice and opinions from friends and family, allowing others to dictate your elopement plans can lead to unnecessary stress and compromises. Remember, your destination elopement is a personal celebration of your love, and the decisions should reflect your vision, not others' expectations.
How to Avoid:
Set Boundaries: Communicate your elopement plans and set boundaries with friends and family regarding their involvement. Let them know that you're happy to share information about your event planning, but you aren't open to making changes. (Unless you are!)
Trust Your Instincts: Prioritize what feels right for you and your partner. Too many chefs in the kitchen is a good analogy for planning an elopement. Only the two of you should decide where, when, and how you're going to marry each other. Since only the two of you are IN the marriage, only the two of you should decide how, when, and where you'll make it official.
Seek Support: Surround yourself with a supportive and loving network who understands and respects your decision to elope. Surround yourself with positive and uplifting influences whenever possible.
3. Underestimating Costs
Destination elopements can be cost-effective compared to traditional weddings, but underestimating the expenses involved can lead to financial stress. From travel and accommodation to permits and local services, it's crucial to budget accurately for your dream elopement. Many of our couples comment on our packages and how affordable they are for the quality of experience they receive. We offer packages starting at $649 for photography services all the way to fully planned elopements.
How to Avoid:
Create a Detailed Budget: Break down all potential costs, including travel, accommodations, permits, and vendor fees.
Account for Contingencies: Plan for unexpected expenses by including a buffer in your budget.
Research Local Costs: Understand the local cost of living and services at your destination to make realistic financial plans.
You may want to consult with a local planner to set realistic expectations.
4. Hiring Vendors That Do Not Offer Coordination Services
Destination elopements often involve coordinating various services, from photography to officiation and beyond. Hiring vendors who do not offer coordination services can result in logistical challenges, miscommunications, and unnecessary stress on your big day. We offer five core services that include elopement photography and videography, bridal hair, and makeup, and wedding officiants (from non-denominational to more customized options) as well as beautiful bridal bouquets and boutonnieres. All of our packages include a complimentary wedding planner and team coordinator to help you manage your team of wedding vendors. Because we're experts in our area, we can point you in the right direction for local hotels to stay in, wedding reception restaurants for after your elopement, and much more)
How to Avoid:
Choose Experienced Vendors: Opt for vendors who have experience with destination elopements and offer coordination services.
Communication is Key: Ensure open and clear communication with all vendors, emphasizing the importance of seamless coordination.
Ask for Recommendations: Seek recommendations from other couples who have eloped at your chosen destination to find reliable vendors.
5. Transportation from Your Hotel to the Wedding Venue
Transportation logistics are often overlooked but are crucial for a smooth elopement experience. Failing to plan transportation from your accommodation to the elopement venue can lead to delays, stress, and potential disruptions. We recommend taking an Uber from your hotel to San Francisco City Hall to save on parking costs and time. We can also suggest some local limousines, party buses, and classic car offerings. If you're driving yourselves, we'll let you know where to safely park close by. You don't want to be late for your wedding, because you do not know where to park.
How to Avoid:
Plan Ahead: Arrange transportation well in advance, considering the distance, terrain, and local transportation options.
Communicate Details: Communicate transportation details to all involved parties, including vendors, guests, and yourselves.
Consider Local Services: Explore local transportation services that specialize in event logistics for a seamless experience.
Your destination elopement is a unique and intimate celebration of love, and avoiding these common mistakes will pave the way for a memorable and stress-free experience. By prioritizing legalities, staying true to your vision, budgeting wisely, choosing coordinating vendors, and planning transportation meticulously, you'll ensure that your destination elopement unfolds seamlessly, allowing you to focus on the joy of saying "I do" in a breathtaking location that reflects your love story. Please let us know if we can help you plan your perfect elopement or wedding day.
